Success verses Self-Sabotage
Being successful is something that we all strive to achieve. Almost from birth, we are measured on how quickly we achieve the standard ‘benchmarks’ of development. We start school and our success is marked on our report card and determined by academic achievement. While our minds are focused on the pursuit of success, we are never really taught to deal with the potential obstacles that stand in between us and our goals. It’s strange, isn’t it? On one hand, we are taught to focus our time chasing success. But, on the other hand, we do not always ask ourselves what it is that keeps us from ever accomplishing it. As a result, we are confronted with the same issues repeatedly.
So, why does this happen?
Between conception and 7 years of age, we absorb everything that happens around, almost as a sponge soaks up water! We have no filters and all of this is ‘stored’ as being ‘true for us’! These thoughts form the basis of our attitude and identity and influences how we ‘expect’ life to play out.
You may have noticed that, mostly, we spend more time thinking and complaining about things that we feel dis-advantage us, or we think are bad, unfair or did not quite turn out as we expected them to. Add to this, the news is constantly bombarding us with negatives. The old saying of ‘no news is good news’ started out as a reassuring comment to ‘not worry if you hear nothing from a person.’ But now it is an actual truth. Good news is not ‘news worthy’. Bad news is more interesting. Bad news, horrifying news engages people quicker and keeps them engaged while the drama unfolds. For myself, I find that often my conversations veer towards the negatives of a situation. I also find that even a small negative can negate the positives of even an exciting experience.
One Lousy Hotel
Just recently I returned home from a trip to Sri Lanka with a group of people. The trip was great, lots of great experiences and excursions, but the last hotel we stayed in was well below par. While waiting for our flight home, it was this ‘lousy’ hotel that dominated the conversation for many of the group and, in doing so over-rode the memories of all the good fun and other good hotels that we stayed in.
But our sabotages and, as I call it, ‘stinking thinking’ does not always concern negativity. Often, our long-term habits prevent us from achieving our goals, cause us to procrastinate or simply give up on project. This ‘stinking thinking’ is when the little voice in our head is saying things like ‘I’m not good enough’ ‘who do I think I am’, ‘I’m not smart enough’ and similar that undermines our confidence and self-esteem. To change ‘stinking thinking’, you must first discover where it came from and what is the underlying cause. Hypnosis is the quickest way to do this.
At Transformations Coaching and Hypnotherapy we work with clients every week to change the negative ‘stinking thinking’ habits that are sabotaging results for our clients.
Retreat – Workshops with Attitude
Now we have taken this a step further with the expansion of our business to include Life Change Retreats & Journeys. The first of our Life Change Retreats – Transform You is being held in Ubud, Bali from 23rd to 29th March 2019.
Imagine: 7 days in spectacular Bali… 7 days to press pause and focus ‘just on you!’
We would love to have you join us …. So for more info: www.LifeChangeRetreats.com.au/transform-you-retreat